As a psychotherapist and mother of a highly sensitive son, I know just how confusing it can be as a parent when your child’s emotions seem bigger, louder and more intense than those around them. You might keep thinking:

“Why does my child get so overwhelmed?”

“Why can’t they just brush things off like other kids?”

“Am I doing something wrong?”

The chances are that you’re not. Instead, your child might simply be highly sensitive. Although that’s often seen as a flaw, it’s not: some of the most creative, empathetic kids are highly sensitive.

Nonetheless, it’s a trait that comes with both challenges and strengths. But recognising it is the first step toward offering the right kind of support and helping your child truly thrive.

So how can you tell if your child is highly sensitive? Below are 10 clear signs to help you identify the trait and understand your child better.

1. They Feel Things Deeply

Highly sensitive children (HSCs) don’t just experience emotions, they live them. A small criticism can feel like a personal failure. A kind word can light them up for the whole day. In other words, their emotional world is rich, but intense.

Perhaps they cry easily, or become deeply moved by music, animals or acts of kindness. These aren’t overreactions: they’re authentic responses to a world that feels very big to them.

2. They’re Highly Observant

A lost button on your shirt. The dust in a ray of light. A subtle change in your facial expression. HSCs have a heightened sensitivity to the world around them. They often pick up on things adults and other children completely miss.

While this makes them observant and perceptive, it can also make the world feel overwhelming, especially noisy, busy or chaotic environments.

3. They Need More Time to Process Change

Transitions, surprises, or new situations can throw a highly sensitive child off balance. Whether it’s a new teacher, a change in routine, or even changing activities, they may need extra time to adjust.

If your child resists change, becomes anxious before new events, or seems to take longer to “warm up,” this could be why.

4. They’re Prone to Overwhelm and Meltdowns

Because their nervous system is more reactive, HSCs are more likely to be overwhelmed by their motions. This can result in seemingly out-of-the-blue meltdowns, especially after long days or lots of stimulation.

It’s not defiance. It’s a sign they’re over their limit and don’t yet have the tools to regulate.

5. They Struggle with Harsh Discipline

Highly sensitive children respond best to connection, not punishment. Talking harshly or making threats may not just hurt: they can deeply shame or frighten them. Instead of learning, they may shut down or become more anxious.

Positive discipline and emotional coaching work far better helping them feel safe enough to grow and learn. I specialise in expert therapy for highly sensitive children, both in person or online.

6. They Show Empathy Beyond Their Years

Many HSCs are deeply compassionate and emotionally attuned. They may worry about others’ feelings, comfort their siblings, or get upset if someone is treated unfairly.

Although this is a beautiful trait, it can sometimes lead to them taking on others’ emotions or feeling overly responsible. They need help learning boundaries and that it’s okay not to fix everything.

7. They Ask Big Questions

HSCs often have thoughtful, curious minds. They might ask questions about life, death, fairness or justice from a surprisingly young age. These aren’t just passing curiosities: they reflect a deeper way of thinking. You may find yourself in profound conversations far earlier than expected!

8. They React Strongly to Criticism

Even being gently corrected can feel crushing to a highly sensitive child. They may take it very personally, cry or insist they’re ‘bad’ or ‘can’t do anything right’.

This is because they often hold themselves to high standards and are highly tuned in to your approval. Encouragement, not pressure, is key here.

9. They Need Downtime to Recharge

After busy days, HSCs are often drained, emotionally and physically. They may need quiet time, to play alone or rest to recharge. Without this, their temper can quickly fray.

10. You Have a Gut Feeling They’re Different

Many parents of HSCs say they just knew early on that their child experienced the world more intensely. Maybe they cried more as a baby, were particular about textures or food, or were unusually aware of other people’s emotions. Parents often know best, so it’s important not to ignore such feelings.

So, Is My Child Highly Sensitive?

If many of these signs resonate, there’s a strong chance your child has a highly sensitive temperament. This isn’t a diagnosis: it’s a trait found in roughly 15-20% of children. And with the right understanding and support, it can become their greatest strength.

I’ve worked with hundreds of families facing the same questions you may have right now:

How do I support my child without being overbearing?
How do I handle their big emotions calmly?
What if I’m struggling as well?

Remember you’re not alone, and support is available.

Ready to Understand Your Child Better?

You don’t have to figure this out on your own. I’ve created a free introductory course for parents of highly sensitive children. It’s packed with the essential insights and tools you need to shift from stress to connection.

If you’re seeking therapy for your child, discover more about what I offer or simply contact me today.